Erin Leigh
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There are lots of D words that have been used to describe dating in Dallas: dismal, dumpster fire, damned, disheartening. We don’t need anecdotes to prove it’s a nightmare, though, unlike many men in this city, the numbers don’t lie. So it’s not hard to understand why Theresa Rowley, a local comedian, traveled to Ireland to kiss her Prince Charming, though he, too, turned out to be a frog.
Once upon a time (spring 2024), in a land not far away (East Dallas), Rowley got the modern equivalent of a handwritten love letter, a flirty Instagram direct message sans fire emoji. The message from an Irishman across the country sparked her interest, and soon, the two were an international item. After a couple of months of constant communication, as much as you can possibly have with someone in a time zone five hours ahead, Rowley hopped across the pond to meet her situationship.
“I was not about to be official with a man that I had never met before,” she tells the Observer.
She also took a friend for enhanced security, because a first date with a guy from the internet is scary, no matter where he lives. But all went well, and with her new boyfriend’s permission, she posted a TikTok video about her soiree, and it immediately struck a chord.
“[I did not think] that it would get any type of traction at all because it’s very different than my normal content,” she says. “It popped off, just went real viral.”
Rowley is a comedy influencer with more than a million followers across several platforms. Her video amassed more than a million views, was the subject of a feature from the Washington Post and caught the attention of Tourism Ireland, which sponsored a second bae-cation back to the Emerald Isle.
“It was a fairy tale,” she says.
All Good Things Must Come to an End
Soon, it was time for the Irishman to come to Texas. He spent Thanksgiving with her family and lived his cowboy dreams. Rowley was hopeful this was the beginning of forever. But then the poisoned apple came. A dreaded “Hey, girly” message paired with screenshots landed in her direct messages just 12 hours before Rowley was supposed to board another flight so they could spend Christmas together in Ireland. She canceled her flight and spent the holiday with her family in Amarillo instead.
“It was a gut punch to read,” she says of learning her knight, and the people’s prince, was infidelious. “But also necessary because with the nature of our relationship, you never know who’s messaging you and why they’re saying what they’re saying. But the proof was in the pudding.”
Rowley, having shared their love story up to this point, couldn’t leave the shocking plot twist out of the fairytale turned horror story. That video sits at four million views. It sounds like a PR stunt, but the story is true, and Rowley said she doesn’t have any non-believers.
“I always expect trolling, but it really was not that,” she says. “It was just a light-hearted story in a time where those are few and far between. People seemed to latch onto it as a beacon of hope, and I hated to let them down, but I didn’t want to keep up a ruse.”
Rowley hasn’t sworn off the Irish forever, but she’s not exactly looking for her next Emerald Isle resident to come sweep her off her feet.
“It’s so funny how the comments have changed, too, because in the first videos, when it was lovey-dovey, it was all like, ‘Irish guys are the best. You’ve got to go outside of America,’” she tells us.
Now, the Irish (according to her comments sections, anyway) don’t have the best reputation. But Rowley doesn’t want her tale to dissuade the city’s other hopeless romantics.
“I don’t want this to be a story that there’s no hope for women. Not all men are dogs, not all men cheat,” she says. “I have to hold on to that hope for myself… People make bad choices based on tough experiences that they’ve had in the past, and we can learn from that. We can shake hands, we can kiss on the cheek and we can move on.”
So there you have it. Dating in Dallas is bad. But it may not be better anywhere else, either. C’est la vie.
